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		<title>It’s Rewarding To Have Insightful Conversations — Start Your’s Today!</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Sep 2019 08:28:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday, I had to spend several hours on trains moving across Germany. Being an experienced entrepreneur, I obviously had prepared myself perfectly and lots of work to be done. When I arrived back home yesterday night, I had done almost nothing of it — and yet, I felt great — it’s rewarding to have insightful conversations! Most of the time during the outward run I spent communicating about a potential</p>
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<p><strong>Yesterday, I had to spend several hours on trains moving across Germany. Being an experienced entrepreneur, I obviously had prepared myself perfectly and lots of work to be done. When I arrived back home yesterday night, I had done almost nothing of it — and yet, I felt great</strong> — <strong>it’s rewarding to have insightful conversations!</strong></p>



<p>Most of the time during the outward run I spent communicating about a potential new venture. Not planned at all, but I have a weakness for re-prioritizing everything as soon as a new venture appears on the horizon. During the last leg, I shared a compartment with an opera singer who was on her trip to a performance that night. As it went, we were in a very intense conversation about the opera, cultivating a healthy voice, parenting  — and —  positive effects of periodical nose showers (!). It always fascinates me that it’s possible to talk with strangers about quite intimate stuff if there is some common ground and general sympathy for each other. </p>



<p>On my way back, I missed some trains and without a seat reservation I had to stand or visit the infamous onboard restaurant, which I did. I asked a lady to share a table with her which she approved. A few minutes later, we started one of the best conversations I have had this year. Being a medical research manager responsible for a team of 30 researchers and doctors at a university, she provided me with great insights into today’s world of medical research, especially its challenges regarding budget limitations. From more mundane aspects of how to incentivize top researchers to actually do research work at a university and not follow the money and work for some industry player, to ethical aspects of medical research and different underlying concepts of a man of Europe vs the United States.</p>



<p>A trip of 4 hours became en entertaining pastime with lots of new insights and opportunities to connect the dots for me ( I hope I could return the favor by elaborating on diverse aspects of decentralization). And although I ended up with lots of undone work I had a very pleasant feeling of enrichment, of being rewarded. <a href="https://michaelreuter.org/2019/06/01/everything-happens-for-a-reason/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">I was right to prioritize conversations over work.</a> I learned more and added more to my life by talking to interesting, sympathetic people with backgrounds totally different from mine. </p>



<p>Have conversations! Don‘t be shy — try to start talking with the person next to you! Start talking to people who you think could be interesting, who are different from you and who seem to appreciate your approach! </p>
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		<title>Finishability</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:40:43 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>“Finishability” is a qualitative term that describes the ease of being able to screed and finish concrete. But you could also use it in other contexts, such as in communication. If you’re equipped with a certain finishability, people will listen to you, understand you and cooperate with you. Think of finishability as an antidote to information overload, as the Economist’s Tom Standage suggests. One of the integral features of the</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>“Finishability” is a qualitative term that describes the ease of being able to screed and finish concrete. But you could also use it in other contexts, such as in communication. If you’re equipped with a certain finishability, people will listen to you, understand you and cooperate with you.</b></p>
<p>Think of finishability as an antidote to information overload, as the Economist’s Tom Standage <a href="http://www.niemanlab.org/2015/04/the-economists-tom-standage-on-digital-strategy-and-the-limits-of-a-model-based-on-advertising/">suggests</a>. One of the integral features of the Internet are links between different contents. Linking one content to another provides the reader with more, related, deeper content — a footnote 2.0 if you want. We could not imagine an internet without links, not as consumers or readers, and not as businesses relying on the power of links; e.g. publishers, search engines, etc..</p>
<p><b>What‘s Behind The Next Link?</b></p>
<p>We all click on links, lots of them, day by day. And then? After years of having clicked on evermore links, there appears this feeling of being lost, of having wasted too much time surfing, or of having clicked on links just to prevent ourselves from doing other stuff which has to be done — there he is the procrastination demon.</p>
<p>What a relief if there is someone or something who / which tells us to stop clicking once more. Be it our significant other demanding quality time, or a simple search result answering a question in a way that doesn’t need further requesting. And this does not refer to simple minds only, being satisfied with simplified views they get from TV, tabloids or cracker-barrel-talks. Even the most intelligent of my friends cherish some finishability. To know there’s some end to a topic, some answer to a question is reassuring for all of us.</p>
<p><b>Adding Meaning To Things</b></p>
<p>For me, finishability has an even broader meaning than as an antidote to information overload. Finishability is giving meaning to things and behaviors. Finishability adds a reassuring element to content, to action, etc.. It helps to go on, to proceed, to reach the next level.&nbsp;People who never get this feeling of finishability will most probably have a feeling that they miss something. And they probably look for the missing thing in the next situation, and the next one.</p>
<p>Finishability means to be satisfied with what I have, with what I bought or with what I just experienced. You might argue that what I bought, saw, or experienced had to entail finishability, otherwise, I could not see it. For me, this is a question of my personal presence: If I “see” finishability in things and actions, I can go on and proceed to the next level. I’m the one who decides about the finishability of things and actions, not somebody else.</p>
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		<title>Does behavioral data facilitate the next quantum leap in human evolution?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Mar 2015 21:17:19 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>What makes Homo Sapiens superior to other animals? We are weaker and slower, but our brains are 3–5 times bigger than those of our nearest species, the Orang Utans. Are the achievements of building the atomic bomb or inventing the internet the main differentiators? Of course not — what makes Homo Sapiens superior is his ability to communicate and to be social — his cultural foundation. About 300,000 years ago,</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>What makes Homo Sapiens superior to other animals? We are weaker and slower, but our brains are 3–5 times bigger than those of our nearest species, the Orang Utans. Are the achievements of building the atomic bomb or inventing the internet the main differentiators? Of course not — what makes Homo Sapiens superior is his ability to communicate and to be social — his cultural foundation.</b></p>
<p>About 300,000 years ago, the fire had become a household means to heat, to cook, and the basis for some other important innovations. For the first time in their millions of years long history, the human species could overcome the lion, slash-and-burn entire forests, and more. The ability to cook alone reduced the mortality rate of mothers and newborns: mothers could give birth to babies years before they developed their enormous heads relative to their remaining body. No other animal needs around 15 years of growing up before being able to care for oneself.</p>
<p>Fire and cooking have proved to be fundamental game-changers for human evolution. And yet, another ability of Homo Sapiens is at least as important: language, oral, written, and other forms of communication have laid the foundation of human evolution of the last 80–100,000 years. Language is the main tool we have been using to become the superior species of the planet.<br>
Language enables us to transport information, to socialize and to bond with or gossip about others, and to communicate what doesn’t even exist; just think of fairy tales, myths, or — much-loved in technology — the future. Studies show that a modern human being can regularly interact with a group of 150 people. Interaction and communication in groups of more than 150 need some tools to structure communication — without that, communication is flawed and brings disastrous results. (Doubt that? Just look at big enterprises.) The ability of making use of a fictional language and to create content and appropriate communication structures that allow us to spread stories, gossip, or beliefs among thousands, a hundred thousand or even millions is what differentiates us from the other animals.</p>
<p></p><figure id="attachment_1226" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-1226" style="width: 604px" class="wp-caption alignnone"><a href="http://datarella.com/the-datarella-world-map-of-behavior/"><img data-recalc-dims="1" fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" data-attachment-id="1226" data-permalink="https://michaelreuter.org/2015/03/09/does-behavioral-data-facilitate-the-next-quantum-leap-in-human-evolution/world-map-city-825x689/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?fit=825%2C689&amp;ssl=1" data-orig-size="825,689" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="Datarella City Map Of Behavior" data-image-description data-image-caption data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?fit=825%2C689&amp;ssl=1" class="wp-image-1226 size-large" src="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?resize=604%2C504" alt="Datarella City Map Of Behavior" width="604" height="504" srcset="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?resize=825%2C689&amp;ssl=1 825w, https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?resize=300%2C251&amp;ssl=1 300w, https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/world-map-city-825x689.jpg?resize=768%2C641&amp;ssl=1 768w" sizes="(max-width: 604px) 100vw, 604px"></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-1226" class="wp-caption-text">Datarella City Map Of Behavior</figcaption></figure>
<p>For now, language is our most personal instrument&nbsp;to express ourselves. But what about our actions? Actions speak louder than words. And sometimes, we see differences between a person’s actions and her words, that is, if we actually <em>see</em> her acting. If there are discrepancies between what we do and what we say — or if people just don’t know what we do, or what the reasons are for how we behave — how should there be any understanding between us? How should we really get the meaning of another person’s words or actions?</p>
<p>Imagine, you are bullied away from the left lane of the highway by an aggressive driver. Anger comes up — you start flashing your headlights, you honk, or you even curse him. What if you knew that he just learned about his 5‑year-old’s critical&nbsp;accident and that he was desperately rushing to the hospital? Wouldn’t you perceive&nbsp;a lot more sympathy for him?<br>
We all interpret other people’s actions from time to time. Often, we judge these actions — in most cases on the basis of very limited knowledge of the respective contexts. More information about the people you interact with and more information about the contexts of your interactions would certainly help in understanding each other much better.</p>
<p>Imagine a tool that provides you with every kind of data of your personal behavior and data of your environment, weather data, data of the situation you are in — in short: your contextual data. This tool would help you to know everything about yourself — even things you had not been aware of before. It would act as your personal mirror. &nbsp;You could use this tool not only to inform yourself but others as well. You could inform your significant other about your actual mood, or you could inform your kids about being late to fetch them from school. You could inform strangers that you are in a hurry — so they could let you pass or would offer you to check-out at the register. Imagine, this tool would do that automatically, effortlessly — without any intervention from your side. You could decide who receives what pieces and quality of your personal behavioral information.</p>
<p>Couldn’t such a tool change your life? And that of people you communicate with? Couldn’t this tool play an integral role in social interactions? Wouldn’t this tool help people to understand each other much better?</p>
<p></p><figure id="attachment_1229" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-1229" style="width: 604px" class="wp-caption alignnone"><a href="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png"><img data-recalc-dims="1" decoding="async" data-attachment-id="1229" data-permalink="https://michaelreuter.org/2015/03/09/does-behavioral-data-facilitate-the-next-quantum-leap-in-human-evolution/drivertimeline/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?fit=1207%2C662&amp;ssl=1" data-orig-size="1207,662" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="Datarella DriverTimelIne" data-image-description data-image-caption data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?fit=990%2C543&amp;ssl=1" class="wp-image-1229 size-large" src="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?resize=604%2C331" alt="Datarella DriverTimelIne" width="604" height="331" srcset="https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?w=1207&amp;ssl=1 1207w, https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?resize=300%2C165&amp;ssl=1 300w, https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?resize=768%2C421&amp;ssl=1 768w, https://i0.wp.com/michaelreuter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/drivertimeline.png?resize=1024%2C562&amp;ssl=1 1024w" sizes="(max-width: 604px) 100vw, 604px"></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-1229" class="wp-caption-text">Datarella DriverTimelIne</figcaption></figure>
<p>This tool is not fiction. This tool will be launched in 2015. It’s an app we are developing at our company <a title="Datarella" href="http://datarella.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Datarella</a>. Its project name is <a href="http://datarella.com/the-datarella-data-timeline/">LifeLine</a>. On your smartphone it collects your behavioral data, analyzes and visualizes the data, and sends it back to you in a meaningful feedback loop. You decide which information you share with whom — all information is yours. LifeLine helps you to know yourself and other people better.<br>
It’s very early to assess the implications of LifeLine, but I’m very confident that it will change the way we live, that it will help us to understand each other significantly better. In that way, it could play a role in helping to facilitate the next level of human evolution. That might sound far-stretched, and we will experience a lot of skepticism, indignation, and outright fear when it comes to integrating all that data into our lives.</p>
<p>To accept one’s own data as important, meaningful, and vital, to learn about the advantages of sharing this data with others and to experience the benefits of openness and transparency (you might call it post-privacy), all that takes time. I think, future generations won’t understand why it took their forefathers that long to accept data as an integral and vital element of their lives. Future school kids will laugh at&nbsp;our anxieties&nbsp;and they will ask their teachers how we could afford not to manage our data, how we could have survived without an active personal data management. This claim isn’t difficult to make: the data exist, it will be available for anybody. Shouldn’t you take care of it and make the best possible use of it?</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Feb 2015 18:36:31 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Today, I had a quite strange and unpleasant discussion. It was about business strategy and sales, and the both of us differed quite clearly in our views on how to ‘do it right’. I wasn’t in the best mood, and from my perspective, the other guy behaved in an egoistic, slightly arrogant and selfish manner. He used typical killer terms, such as “totally clear” or “as I’ve always been saying”</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today, I had a quite strange and unpleasant discussion. It was about business strategy and sales, and the both of us differed quite clearly in our views on how to ‘do it right’. I wasn’t in the best mood, and from my perspective, the other guy behaved in an egoistic, slightly arrogant and selfish manner. He used typical killer terms, such as “totally clear” or “as I’ve always been saying” to underline his apparently superior line of argumentation.<br>
I’m used to these rhetoric techniques which are popular tools used in many corporate meetings. And normally, I don’t bother at all since I don’t use these techniques myself and I don’t react on them, neither. But today, I couldn’t resist and after a while I found myself in a quite strenuous debate with “rights” and “wrongs” — with both participants looking for winning arguments.<br>
During those 90 minutes, I asked myself a few times to calm down, forget about what the other one just said, start anew, and so on. But it didn’t  work. At the end we came to some sort of conclusion which did not satisfy one of us. I left with a bad — or at least very mixed feeling. During the first 2 hours or so after the event, I realized that I was trying to explain myself by (mentally) arguing against his statements.<br>
Luckily, after some coffee and some distraction, I suddenly asked myself: what, if he were right? What, if I put my arguments aside for a moment, and took over his perspective — no matter if his argumentation was flawed or not?<br>
This exercise — to really take on your opponent’s perspective and act respectively — is one of the more demanding ones. To change my spots has been quite difficult, today. But, it worked. I successfully imagined some scenarios based on his arguments. The result: as always, I learned a lot by doing this exercise. First: the anger I felt after having left was anger about myself — not being able to cope with the situation in a good way. And — without going into detail, I now know that I really could — and should — optimize my own views and behavior regarding business strategy and sales. I still regard some of his views as flawed but these are details: my key takeaway from today’s discussion is that I learn most from difficult, unpleasant communications. In a wider sense, that reflects that we all <a href="http://michaelreuter.org/2014/03/19/you-can-learn-something-from-anybody/">can learn something from anybody.</a><br>
If you read this, thank you for today’s insight, dear.….!</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>This is a guest post by Janine Pfahl, a communications and learning expert. Janine replies to my earlier post., which you might read first. While pausing for a moment in the spring sunshine to read Michael’s text „You can learn something from everybody and everything from all“, our dog positions his snout on my keyboard and starts to communicate in his own way. It’s absolutely clear what he wants to</p>
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<em>This is a guest post by <a title="Lenerl on Twitter" href="https://twitter.com/lenerl">Janine Pfahl</a>, a communications and learning expert. Janine replies to my <a title="You can learn something from everybody" href="http://michaelreuter.org/2014/03/19/you-can-learn-something-from-anybody/">earlier post</a>., which you might read first.</em><br>
While pausing for a moment in the spring sunshine to read Michael’s text „<a href="http://michaelreuter.org/2014/03/19/you-can-learn-something-from-anybody/">You can learn something from everybody and everything from all</a>“, our dog positions his snout on my keyboard and starts to communicate in his own way. It’s absolutely clear what he wants to tell me. Not only dog owners can interpret this signal: „Come on, play with me! Stop working and stroke me!“ Even a dog is not able to not communicate and, after gazing back and forth, he lies down at my feet in the sunshine — and the both of us are happy. He did not only remind me to think of him, but that he is the wiser one. I reward him (and myself) by caressing him and I’m glad not having to speak to anybody.<br>
Communications and learning are the main aspects of my job. I have to talk all day long, sometimes without any relevant timeouts. And while thinking about the different relationship levels of the individual communication partners, my self-revelation and the appeal of what I say,it becomes apparent that not only communication is unbelievably complicated but learning is anything but self-evident. Why?<br>
The older we get the more we experience that we learn unconsciously each day. Is there anybody who wouldn’t be thankful for that? „<a title="you can learn something from everybody" href="http://michaelreuter.org/2014/03/19/you-can-learn-something-from-anybody/">You can learn something from everybody</a>..“ and everybody knows something what you don’t know (yet). So simple, so true!<br>
After an extended and pleasant discussion with Michael about that topic I couldn’t but agree to all that. So obvious, so natural, so good are his arguments: to learn from the experiences of others, to switch perspectives, to accept different opinions, to see oneself dealing with others and to learn from all that. In a word: be tolerant and learn from others. Who would not agree with that ideal? It sounds too good, doesn’t it?<br>
But there is something which distracts me, since I am no saint. I’m a quite normal human being with my own idiosyncrasies. I am familiar with those dark, narrow blind lanes of communication. And I prefer shaky old wooden bridges over well-paved communication highways, anyway, To learn from others, that means not only to to learn via spoken or written words. We also learn by watching, we learn from other people’s behavior — but the connecting link always is communication. Communication with others doesn’t always proceed according to plan and sometimes smaller or larger misunderstandings happen. Who has never been in a catch-22 like this?<br>
Although I love learning and I want to learn every day and all my life — sometimes I do not want to learn from others. I don’t want learn from a colleague I don’t really respect; I don’t want to learn from a neighbor who wears her humans stains like others wear their clothes. Even if they know something wich I don’t know, from time to time I prefer to turn a blind eye to something. It happens quite often that we see something beautiful when looking away.<br>
For me, learning means not only to discover flaws in nice things, to tolerate them and to learn from them — but most of all it means to see the light and the beauty which emanates from something which is old, rotten or broken. Nature is our reflection: after a bad start into the day, nature shows flowers with enthusiasm — even if they knew that the next storm would carry them away.<br>
My child, smiling at me after a short and bad night, opening his tired eyes….the dog, who asks to be caressed, but who offers me his soft fur to feel good myself. From all that I love to learn.<br>
<em>You can learn something from somebody and everything from all.</em><br>
Recently, we went to Speyer with the whole family. There were far to many people. Happy about the first sunbeams, people annoyed themselves. At the Speyer Cathedral I saw a nun who, appearing relaxed and friendly, smiled at another person and waved. A wonderful moment, teaching me humility and tolerance.<br>
<em>&nbsp;The photo was shot by Janine at Speyer Cathedral.</em></p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jul 2009 08:45:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Using twitter for some time it took us months to realize the unique value of this small communication feature we launched on YiGG today: the ‘@username’-feature. From now on YiGGers get personal messages after being addressed with @username in a comment. A small feature, a big effect on communications: now, YiGGers know that they had ben addressed or mentioned in comments without rechecking news entries with own comments or using</p>
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<p>Using twitter for some time it took us months to realize the unique value of this small communication feature we launched on YiGG today: the ‘@username’-feature. From now on YiGGers get personal messages after being addressed with @username in a comment.</p>
<p>A small feature, a big effect on communications: now, YiGGers <em>know</em> that they had ben addressed or mentioned in comments <em>without</em> rechecking news entries with own comments or using our spy-called realtime ticker in the appropriate mode.</p>
<p>I am wondering why we sometimes don’t realize what is obvious. </p>
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